Comments on: Seeing the Light: Owning our Patterns

By: Gretchen Casey

Gretchen Casey — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 16:02:56 +0000

I am thrilled to have found your site, this article and the comments. Thanks to all of you. I’ve needed some clarity on a relationship issue, to “see the light”. These comments have helped me to sort through my issues that are keeping me stuck in and to see my patterns and attachments better. This helps very much.
All the best to all of you.

By: Vesco B

Vesco B — Wed, 17 Mar 2010 16:40:29 +0000

I’ve wasted decades with “recognising patterns” and the related “letting go of patterns”. But these days Reality reveals itself to me in simpler ways.

From my perspective there are a couple of things going on here:
Until she feels what’s in it for her in that “pattern” she can’t drop it. Regardless of whether she is going to access the core of her self-sabotage, or some past significant rejection which is still radiating toxic energy into the present, or she is going to really really feel her deep need to connect at heart level, any of those would do. But all aspects of her being must be activated (or at least as many as possible).

Two slightly round-about approaches are: 1) To feel how she is not into those guys, which in turn is manifested as them not being into her. 2) If she really stays with, however miniscule, element of attraction that guy has for her. Out of this any Passion can grow. No man can resist that. (Few women realise the power they have over men when they start using their authentic female power and stop playing with more male techniques like “recognising patterns”).

Bottom line is she is not in touch with her Desire, with her Life Force. The Poison is the Cure then becomes the most direct approach …

By: Andrew

Andrew — Wed, 17 Mar 2010 16:26:55 +0000

Hey, kinda synchronistic stuff, this is just the sort of thing I needed to read. I was hit in the face with one of my patterns the other day – a romantic issue too. It’s very good when you can get a bit outside that. :)

I’m going to tweet this page I think ;)

Love

By: Jessica

Jessica — Wed, 17 Mar 2010 16:18:30 +0000

Great post! I like this: “I played the part of the victim for many years. “No,” I would say, “It’s NOT me, how could it be?” And then, thank god, I realized I was walking around blindly. Now I do my best to swallow my ego, and take ownership of my patterns…” Me, too. I’ve woken up to many of my old patterns that don’t serve me and yet there are many more. Here’s to keeping on keeping on…acknowledging all the ways we walk around unconsciously.

By: paradoxfound

paradoxfound — Tue, 16 Mar 2010 15:31:53 +0000

These patterns that we have all experienced, and most of us are experiencing at this very moment without our knowledge, find root in attachment. For your friend, it seems to be an attachment to security, perhaps pervading from a dissonance between who she is and who she sees herself to be. This is the cause of her pattern.

The liberation from this pattern parallels a much larger one. There is a thirst for something that keeps this pattern going, a desire to find something concrete in an impermanent world. It is paralleled in the very path of life, that our thirst and desire for something concrete in life causes the arising of dukkha. Seeing the pattern makes it go away.

You have achieved on a small scale what is enlightenment, a liberation from a pattern. Now to do it until there are no patterns left.

-D.L.